While their life appeared to be successful, fun and amazing, Andy and Sara’s marriage was at a breaking point. Their life was at a high point, but their relationship had reached a low. In today’s episode they share how their marriage recovered.

Can a marriage survive the damage of gaslighting and blame? Today’s episode is proof it can. Dr. Kim got to witness a complete transformation in Andy and Sara’s marriage. Their story is full of grace and hope, and we are so thankful to them for sharing it with us today.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.

Episode highlights include:

How did things look good from the outside for as long as they did?
How Sara used waiting to grow closer to God
The turning point that allowed Andy to start to change
The specific process that changed Andy from the inside out

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*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

QUOTES

“We lived this big, giant, amazing life. The problem was, I was getting wrapped more and more into my success, thinking I was this great gift to humanity.” - Andy
“I started gaslighting her. I still don't completely know what that word means, but I know I’m guilty of it.” - Andy
“The more I would lean into my position, the more she would lean into hers. All of a sudden, we were in a pretty bad spot, and it happened fast.” - Andy
“I felt like he didn’t know me. He didn’t know my heart.” - Sara
“I was searching for the world to fill that void in my chest that only God can fill.” - Andy
“You need to meditate and delight in the word of God to change the trajectory of your life.” Pastor Mike (via Andy)
“The Lord didn’t care about all my success. He wanted me broken at the foot of the cross.” - Andy
“The difficulty of life is where the Lord shows up. Suffering is such a gift if you don’t waste it.” - Andy
“My relationship with the lord, my wife, my kids, it’s all where it should be. And I can deal with the storms of life if I have that correct.” - Andy
“It’s the little things that he makes important to him because he knows they’re important to me, and it makes me feel known, seen, and loved and pursued.” - Sara

QUESTIONS FOR YOU

How have you seen God show up in the midst of difficult times?
What are the little things your spouse does that make you feel loved?

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Questions about gaslighting and blame? Submit them anonymously HERE or over on Instagram for Dr. Kim to answer in an upcoming episode
Want to reduce unnecessary arguments, decrease stress in your home, develop better understanding of your spouse, OR just strengthen your bond as a couple? Our 30-Day Communication Challenge is for you!

Andy and Sara's Marriage Recovery Story | Ep. 591