Singles - How to Find a Mate: Making Your List

Choose things that you can work on that will prepare you for the next relationship. Through this process you will have a greater chance of making the next relationship better than the last. Remember, the only person you can change is yourself.

What do you want in a future mate? What are the qualities and values that you would like them to have? Make another list as you think through these questions.

As you look at your list, ask yourself this question, “What things are essential for a future spouse to have?” Mark these with an “A.” These are your absolutes. Then look at the remaining items on your list. Are some of these negotiable? If there are, put an “N” by these. Now you have a template to place over everyone that you consider going on a date with.  

Finally, make a commitment to not compromise your list. You may be tempted. The “right” person may not come along for a while or for a very long time. You may get tired of being alone.  You may be tempted to settle. I promise you this: If you wait and if you do not compromise you increase your chances of having a successful relationship many times over. Waiting is hard but it will be worth the wait.