Insights from Dr. Kim: Touch Points

“Touch points” are those opportunities that each of us have in our marriages every single day.  They connect us and draw us closer to each other. I’m not talking about the big ones like long conversations, date nights or weekend getaways. Those are all great but I’m talking today about the ones that are right there before us. For example, that time in the evening when you both are finally at home together. You take just a minute to kiss, hug, and say, “how was your day?” Someone said that the first ten minutes a couple are at home together in the evening sets the tone for the entire evening. Taking advantage of that touch point makes sure those ten minutes set the right tone.

Touch points are about those normal things that occur every day which we often let pass us by when they could be a part of building an Awesome Marriage. Here are some other ideas. When you are running errands, make a date of it. Instead of going separate ways to be more efficient, go together and grab something to drink on the way or stop for ice cream. If you are both doing chores around the house, work on things together and have fun doing it. At night when you are both lying in bed, have some pillow talk and take advantage of that time together. If the kids are spending the night out or at their grandparents’ home, don’t miss out on the multiple “touch points” that time can give you.

My point today is this. Most of us have busy, hectic lives. We don’t think we have the time or the energy to add anything else. Yet, being aware of the possible “touch points” each day and taking advantage of them can change your marriage from normal to awesome with only a few minutes of being intentional with each other. What is one “touch point” you can take advantage of today?

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